My only problem is how to socialize, when you know you've always sucked at it, and it can make you fear from starting it again, but I try to improve myself, because I'm at the point now when I say : F*ck all the games, I want to do something, because I see those who don't play have better life. ). Thanks for the comment, I'm going now to uninstall every shit from my pc. :D, Also, not fapping is bad for your health if you're a man, and it is still harmful if you're a woman, I think that once a day, average not median, is pretty darn good! I have my own business and work for myself. Uninstalling my games allowed me to change myself to a better person. hide. I worked out regularly but still can't help it whenever I was "tempted". I’m Cam. Working a 12 Step program has helped a lot. Here is a great video that revealed a lot to me. Some people see huge changes in two months, and others take two years or more to see the same changes. It did for me. I think the most important part to find as quickly as possible is the social equivalent IRL. My advice for all my StopGaming folks, you're not really gonna go anywhere if you just stop playing games yet you do nothing else. I started thinking about what was the time i started playing so much, and I realised it was around the time I stopped playing football/soccer. I sit in the front, I talk to my teacher a lot, and I have a really great time (while learning, of course.) It depends on where you are starting from. :D. Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our User Agreement and Privacy Policy. Which game would you choose? View all results for . Right now my real problem is my job at least that's how I feel for the time being. When I'm not playing video games I'm looking up 6 hours of gaming videos per day. It will take a little while to go back to normal, but you can make it better by trying to do something else. Then, reduce it to 1 hour a day to make things easier for yourself. [–]Drev92830 days 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child). It´s almost like anti stress therapy in game form and it doesn´t matter if you finish it right away, you can always get back into it. If you play for a few hours a day, try only playing for 2 hours a day for the first week. I have been bored of gaming for years but I still feel urges to play them and when I do I'm excited prior to playing them but when I play them I'm bored and can't have fun no matter what game I play. Most children love video games. That is literally where I started! One year after I had left school my Japanese level still wasn’t good enough to get approved in the exam. I contribute this partially to genetics - a history of drug and alcohol abuse in my family including both parents, and mental illness (i'm also bipolar) - but the other part is that I can work my way through it. Personally i really miss gaming atm, but i think that's peoples experience at least :), [–]jotakami2230 days 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children). I deal with it by doing different things - the first thing I like to do is knock out 30 pushups. If we engage our mind in something for a long time every day, it … Personally, I experience games as an addiction, so what alcohol is to an alcoholic, video games of all kinds are to me. [–]Miguelinileugim 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (4 children), Time, that's great, however energy? Lots of games can lag. I found martial arts to be very helpful probable because of the fact that it has an aspect to it where you progress (sort of like leveling up in a game). Eventually it becomes habitual. Read How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie, read The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson, start hanging out in environments where you can meet people and practice interacting. [–]LearningSerenity2558 days 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children). I was checking out a baby lizard yesterday - I'd never seen one that small before. [–]camerondare3578 days 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (2 children). Try meetups and get out of the house more. How to Get Your Child to Stop Playing Video Games. ...how could that possibly happen just because of not playing videogames? Think about it like you are the character you get to build in this world, you have different skills and talents, and to improve them you need to go on missions and quests to complete. I'm glad I got up early today. © 2020 reddit inc. All rights reserved. I've nailed quitting videogames, but no fap is... hard :D Go out! It starts with recognizing where you are at, and where you want to go. Close. Pokémon Sword and Shield, Sunset Overdrive, Stardew Valley, PUBG, Kentucky Route Zero, Persona 5, and more. [–]navi-thejedimaster 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children). Did stopping gaming really improve your life? I started working more hours, but I couldn’t stop playing video games. :S, [–]TheLoneGreyWolf992 days 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (3 children), Right - so energy is a tricky thing. Those won't be fun. [–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (2 children), Simply uninstalling did not change my life. Wake up and make your bed. What I do find fun, however, is class. On No-Fap they say it takes 30 days to refresh your system (whatever that means). I actually do find a lot of things interesting that other people don't notice. I dislike chores, if that's what you're asking. save hide report. Reading a book became entertaining again when I got rid of constant stimulation. Three things keep me energized: A healthy amount of sleep (and a consistent sleep cycle), three meals with snacks in between (meaning enough calories to keep me going), and exercise (it started as lifting weights, but now I just play basketball for hours - hoop is life!!). If you want to stop playing video games, gradually reduce your playtime and focus on other things. Goodluck sir! I've always been very competitive and had a strong desire to be the best. A good recovery program makes a world of difference, and I highly recommend one. Archived. You'll notice benefits within the first week, for sure, as long as you try your best :). When/are you going to stop playing video games and why? I am desperately trying my best not to fall back to video games. There was (and is) an immense amount of this kind of stuff in my life, so learning how to deal with it in a good and healthy way took a lot of time and a willingness to learn how to live life very differently than I had at any point in the past. If you want to see where I was when I first quit, it's here: I battled depression, struggled with low self-esteem and “feeling good enough.”. Going to the gym was boring; doing martial arts lead me to become my character, only this time, it's in real life, which is great. David Livermore (author) from Bakersfield, California, United States on April 24, 2018: Your parents already are aware you spend too much time gaming. This gives me the freedom and flexibility to do what I want. I didn’t have very many friends, and the ones I did have were gamers. best. Going to a friends house seems like good advice, except their friends are likely also playing video games, so now you are just making the problem worse, and limiting the time you play never works at all. For example, improving your social skills or learning a language. Worst of all, to avoid having to get another job I deceived my parents by pretending to have a job at a restaurant and again at an internet cafe. (When I first quit my only friends were fellow gamers who held me back. Search our huge selection of new and used video games at fantastic prices at GameStop. etc. Playing video games may begin as an innocent hobby, but can turn into your comfort zone where you try to escape reality.It can become an addiction, and you may unconsciously leave all other aspects of life behind. Also yeah I do a few pushups and stuff, but they don't make me happy :(, [–]TheLoneGreyWolf992 days 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (3 children), I don't know how long a little while is. So just know you are not alone. Enough is enough, it's time to stop writing bullshit articles and trying to force a message. [–]Miguelinileugim 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (16 children). All of my previous attempts at quitting meant gritting my teeth and forcing myself to not play no matter how much I wanted to. How to. I’m leaving my gaming PC with a friend so I can’t play”. and join one of thousands of communities. My life used to be a complete mess. Stop Playing Video Games. People aren’t going to stop playing video games by studying more. At the moment I am trying to find a productive hobby. To create this article, 12 people, some anonymous, worked to edit and improve it over time. For example, if you commit to stop playing video games for 90 days, but you still do your same old daily routine, chances are you're more likely to relapse. 22 comments. I tried quite a few times to either control or moderate my gaming, and nothing worked. If there's one thing I've noticed from this community, it's that we all have a lot of the same struggles in common. "Hey I want to go lift weights today!" [–]TheLoneGreyWolf992 days 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child). Hello , im 17 years old and all the time im stuck at home playing games ( 5000 hours of Dota 2 , and more then 1500 hours in other games like CS:GO) I want to quit games because it effects my grades at school and my social life( to make thing worse i have social anxiety , and i think that's why i started playing games,im working on my social anxiety but it takes a lot of time ...) I don't know what to do if i stop with games , i go out with my friends on weekends , but all the time im home all i do is playing video games i don't find anything else fun.. Becoming a social person doesn't just happen. 10. Did stopping gaming really improve your life? I was addicted to gaming for 10 years. Do everyday activities become at least on the same magnitude of fun as videogames after you stop playing them for long enough? Sex is part of life, so is masturbation. But once you are with friends IRL and have gotten used to not gaming, i think it can be nice. You need to get out of your comfort zone in order to archieve things. Rendered by PID 25165 on r2-app-0455a2cc00fe93812 at 2020-12-24 01:08:07.567130+00:00 running 6abf2be country code: US. This was done in incredibly boring ways, with Metal and Crystal resources building up over time, so you could upgrade your Metal and Crystal mining… But just wondering, exactly how many weeks or months until your cravings stopped and simple things like reading a book became entertaining again? A normal human being? I want to help but feel it’s not my place to police his gaming. ), I learned to DJ and even performed in Prague. If I feel bad - fap - feel out of energy afterwards. 18.9k comments. I did it! Damn I really want to make breakfast today. In answer to the opening question, yes, absolutely, but not as directly as you might think. I don't recommend the pure willpower approach (aka "white-knuckling"). Here are some examples that may surprise you.Subscribe for more: http://youtube.com/gameranxtv homework? I lacked confidence in general, especially with women, was constantly put in the dreaded friend zone and didn’t feel attractive as a man. About This Article. I still crave videogames. As video games have gotten more technically advanced, they’ve also gotten more entrancing. It has certainly improved my life but at times I question if I am really benefiting from not playing videogames. The first 10 sessions are free, so it's a good place to start. Get an ad-free experience with special benefits, and directly support Reddit. In order to lose a habit, we need to replace it with another one. Depressed, I pretended to have jobs and deceived my family. Given you have the chance to go into a video game, what would you do to ensure the most resources for yourself? share. Do i just need to hang in there? Sorry if im not on right subreddit , just tell me and i will delete the post. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. Not everyone agrees though. You'll never have a chore where you have to scrape mold off of your floor that will be fun (unless you're a micro biologist... then you might microscope that mold). It may seem like a stupid question, but i've sold my gaming pc 3 or 4 times now and been without it for up to 4 months at a time, but after a while i always get back to gaming because im really bad socially and the people i talk to from college are gamers as well. I had little education, had dropped out of high school twice and never graduated, had no desire to go back or to ever go to college. That was good. Then I decide what's next on the list - exercise? 4 months just seem like a long time with no real improvement.. Just bored out of my mind watching daily vlogs and stuff instead because i dont function as a social person. I haven't figured it out yet. [–]Miguelinileugim 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children), Fascinating, thanks for telling me all of that! ), I’m surrounded by a great group of friends who inspire me. I looked around and saw a lot of people looking at their phones while walking to class. So you go lift weights one day, and then don't go back to the gym ever again. I was in and out of jobs all the time, lasted two days as a landscaper, worked as a dishwasher at Earls, lasted about a week stocking shelves at Walmart, and disappeared from my jobs at Papa Johns Pizza and Booster Juice. Technically yes, depending on the game. So...all of that happened, and made life much better than it ever was before...but none of that would have been able to happen if I'd still been gaming. So the fact that I don't game today HAS changed my life...but only because it made possible all the other changes that are really transforming me. It's hard, exhausting, and prone to failure at the worst possible moments. Any time I wasn’t playing, I’d think about the next time I could play. Anyway. I don't know what to do if i stop with games , i go out with my friends on weekends , but all the time im home all i do is playing video games i don't find anything else fun.. How long did it take until you had the energy again to do things? Here are a few of the highlights. Video games are a great source of entertainment and can be associated with positive health benefits including improved vision, creativity, and cognition when played in moderation. (Currently writing this in Thailand, country #20), I’ve given two TEDx talks. I don't hate myself anymore. I'm bipolar, so I picked up a book, An Unquiet Mind, that is pretty true to some of my experiences. There are many things that I want to do but since my job brings me a world of stress I am trying to simplify my life by just focusing on one hobby; a replacement for video games if you will. These two habits in particular are like a strong foundation in your life that you can use to start adding other things to. Switched outlets. You have to take action. [–]Miguelinileugim 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children), That's interesting, what are you studying anyway? Not only that, but I didn’t even know how to make friends. low-esteem, struggling with women, only gamer friends, lack of socializing skills... EVERY words just describe me now. For meditation, try Headspace. The one highlight in my life was gaming, but as the reality of the above came more and more in focus in my life, I came to acknowledge that although gaming wasn’t the cause of these issues, it was what allowed me to avoid having to deal with the situation. It can become really frustrating, particularly when it happens extremely frequently. If I start, I can't stop...and sadly, I lack the ability to prevent myself from starting. My first experience with these feelings came from OGame. So here goes! But after coming across this question, I felt compelled to share my previous experience with this topic. I could go on for a while about the changes I've seen in my life as a result of working a good recovery program, but that would take more time and typing than I care for right now. What they're helping people (like me) do is get away from the negative effects of doing it too often. I'm now pretty darn depressed actually, not even some light reddit keeps me sane :(, [–]TheLoneGreyWolf992 days 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (5 children). The thing is, you got good at gaming which means you can apply the same strategies to get good at your social skills. I'm a straight A student, I'm self-employed (created my own job, making ~ triple minimum wage while having fun), but most importantly I'm happy. Get Into Esports. Now I've set my goals very high. Go do a push up :D. But but but how much is "a little while"? bitch on reddit? I'm a far more compassionate person than I ever was before, and I'm able to deal with rough times in life without touching a game (which I never used to be able to do). And then learning what you need to to get there. If you want to take your life to the next level, you’re going to need to stop playing so many video games (I’m speaking from personal experience here as a former gamer). It just needs to be one thing as I am not used to having multiple hobbies at once. It has negatively affected my finances that's for sure. Definitely! This is the muscle I've been exercising the most (and I fail a lot, which sucks, but it's part of the process). I've wanted to start my own business for a while now, so I checked up on Elon Musk (he started his own business to say the least). How to Make a Video Game Stop Lagging on Windows. If you’re looking for recommendations, we have you covered. :), [–]Miguelinileugim 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children). Because of this, video game addicts might end up with a lot of debt. What's been working for me for the past ~18 months is a 12 Step recovery program focused on gaming addiction. 0. :). Former gamers of reddit, what was the reason you stopped playing video games altogether, or a lot less frequently? At any given point in my childhood, my strongest desire was probably to play video games. Stop playing games and come outside you loser. Everyday activities become fun? Listen to The Art of Charm podcast. (self.StopGaming). Sometimes everyday, sometimes once per week, sometimes for hours and hours. Ultimately, it's the other changes that I see as being the big ones that have made my life SOOOO much more worthwhile. [–]coconut_radio 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children). But when I tried martial arts again after a very long time (half a decade), I felt a kind of high. When I quit learning to be social was my #1 goal and it's taken some time but I've managed to make a lot of progress as well. Make sure you watch this video!! It caused me to drop out of high school, and while my friends were off to college, I was living in my parents basement playing video games up to 16 hours a day.. The reason they are playing video games is to avoid studying! I've already added that video to my watchlist! 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